From now on I will be having a special series of posts regarding my personal thoughts on different matters. To know more of my thoughts and advises, you can hover your mouse over to the "Categories" section on the top right side of the blog and click the "Personal Thoughts" link. I feel like if I were to share my own point of view, then you will be able to connect with me more on an intimate level (well sort of).
So for my first personal opinion on why is it hard to be a good friend relates really closely to me as I have encountered these situations over the years growing up. Hey, what do I know, right? I am only 26...
But over the years, I realised that being a good friend is hard because most of the time your friends are having a hard time swallowing your harsh criticism. Well, if we aren't going to tell you the truth, then who else will?
All those friends, who keep agreeing with you even when you make no sense at all, are the kind of friends who you really need to be worrying about! What kind of friend would I be, if I let you make the wrong decision?
And believe or not, though I find it hard to be a good friend...I am really thankful that I can speak the truth to your face without worrying that it will damage our friendship, you want to know why? It's rather simple actually...
Because if our relationship was genuine in the first place, then no matter how truthfully harsh I can be towards you or you can be towards me, it would not shake our friendship.
In fact, the two best and closest friends of mine, are the two that I have had a big quarrel with before. One even went silent for a couple of years before realising what I said to her was nothing but the truth and eventually, she came back to me and now, even though we don't speak or catch up as often as we would like to, we know we got each other's back.
These are the kinds of friendship bonds that matter to me and these are the kinds of friends that you should surround yourself with.
Not with the ones who claim to be your friend but does not want to face facts, brushes you off with their ego and label you as a bossy or nosy person.
Please don't get me wrong, I have my flaws too...but at least I am brave enough to accept it when someone is saying it to my face.
Do yourself a favour and get around with a positive group of friends.
Please do drop me a message on what other matters would you like to hear from me...Till the next post, see you!